You’re not your career
"So, what do you do?"
It's often the first question we ask when meeting someone new. Our society has woven our identities so tightly with our professions that it's hard to separate the two. But here's a radical thought: you are not your career.
Think about it. When you were a child, did you dream of spreadsheets and meetings? Of course not. You dreamed of adventures, of creating, of changing the world. Somewhere along the way, we started defining ourselves by our job titles and salaries.
But what happens when your career takes an unexpected turn?
- Laid off at 45
- Burnt out in your "dream job"
- Realizing your chosen field no longer aligns with your values
These situations can be devastating if you've tied your entire self-worth to your professional life.
Your career is important, yes. It provides for you and your loved ones. It can be a source of fulfillment and purpose. But it's not the sum total of who you are.
You are:
- Your passions and hobbies
- The relationships you nurture
- The kindness you show to strangers
- Your unique perspective on the world
- The causes you champion
- The personal growth you pursue
Your job may change, but these core aspects of your identity remain.
Embracing this truth isn't about downplaying ambition. It's about finding balance and resilience. When you recognize that your value isn't determined by your LinkedIn profile, you're free to take risks, to pursue meaningful work, to prioritize your well-being.
So the next time someone asks, "What do you do?" Try answering with what truly lights you up. You might be surprised at the conversation that follows.
Remember: Your career is part of your story, but it's not the whole book. You're writing new chapters every day, both in and out of the office. Make them count.